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发表于 2016-7-11 19:01:12
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When Ding visited Ni a second time, the distraught mother burst into tears
and began to explain her feelings. Ni became a volunteer worker for the project
and helped to set up an online chat group to allow the exchange of information
and provide peer support for families in the district. In addition, the group
organizes offline activities such as get-togethers and physical checks to
provide contact and emotional support, Ding said.
"There are various rules we must recognize when we offer care," she said,
explaining that bereaved parents should never be visited by large groups of
carers because they don't want to draw attention to themselves.
One woman in Baqiao refused to visit her family for 15 years after her
22-year-old son was killed in an auto accident, Ding said. She added that it's
common for bereaved parents to confine themselves to their homes for a period of
time. "They don't want other people to know anything, not even their close
relatives."
Tu Hongzhu, head of the secretariat of the Family Planning Association of
Xi'an, said appropriate intervention is necessary to safeguard distraught
parents from irrational behavior that can be prompted by grief.
Ni was faced with a medical bill of more than 400,000 yuan when her
daughter died in 2008. As a textile worker, the sum was far beyond her means, so
she asked her relatives for loans. She broke off relations with almost all who
refused.
"Peer support, communication and activities organized by the project help
to heal bereaved parents emotionally," Tu said, adding that the parents don't
like to see too many people. "They prefer a regular and relatively exclusive
circle."
Ding believes care and support should be provided moderately, but
sensitively. "We always visit during traditional festivals or if they fall ill,
but we never disturb their normal lives in the name of care," she said.
Tu echoed Ding's view, adding that couples in the autumn of their years
face great difficulties obtaining care, and require medical treatment, mental
and emotional support.
Hua said: "I don't fear death, but the thought of getting old and falling
ill upsets and horrifies me."
Ding urged decision-makers to look into the problem as quickly as
possible.
"When these people enter old age in five to 10 years' time, they will
require daily care. Are we preparing ways to handle the problem and assure them
of a decent life when that happens?" she asked.
Preparations ongoing
When they turn 60, every bereaved parent in Xi'an receives a monthly
allowance of 900 to 1,000 yuan.
"That figure rises by 100 yuan when they get to 70," Tu said.
"Preparations are now being made, particularly in terms of medical
treatment and care for the elderly, otherwise it will be too late," he noted,
adding that 40 percent of bereaved couples in the city are aged 60 or older.
The local government grants bereaved single-child parents a one-time
subsidy of 20,000 to 30,000 yuan, and women younger than 49 are encouraged to
undertake a free course of assisted reproductive technology to help them have
another child, he added.
Moreover, local mental health teams have been integrated to ensure
professional psychiatric intervention, he said.
According to Ding, about 10 percent of Baqiao's bereaved couples are
willing to accept the services.
A micro loan program has been introduced to encourage unemployed bereaved
parents to start small businesses and become more involved with society, she
added.
Moreover, as a pre-emptive measure, the local government has introduced and
subsidized voluntary commercial insurance policies among all parents involved in
the family planning project whose child is aged 16 or younger. The policies
cover a range of major illnesses and accidental injuries and death.
Each participating family pays an annual premium of just 10 yuan, and the
local government provides a subsidy of 40 yuan.
Of the 385,000 eligible families in Xi'an, more than 70,000 are now covered
by the plan. "A further 140,000 are expected to be included by the end of the
year," said Tu, who added that the local government's subsidy policies for
bereaved families are uniform across all districts, but the means of delivering
care and support vary according to need.
"The policies must be fair, open, and equal to all, otherwise mistakes
could occur and that would cause the families more mental anguish," he said.
Subsidy discrepancies
A family planning official surnamed Sun in the Hedong district of Tianjin,
which participates in the family planning association's project, said there are
about 200 bereaved parent families locally.
However, the amount paid as a one-time subsidy varies from district to
district within the municipality, which has provoked group protests for equal
treatment, he noted.
"A uniform policy within the city would at least help to ensure that the
work runs smoothly," Sun said.
People suffering serious physical or mental problems, the elderly and those
facing economic hardship are given top priority, he added.
In 2013, Hedong paid a monthly allowance of 200 to 270 yuan to bereaved
parents, providing the wife was 49 or older. "The reality is that the relatively
rich get more subsidies. The central government should introduce policies and
coordinate action to change the situation," Sun said.
Wang Haidong, director of the family planning and family development
department at the National Health and Family Planning Commission, said the
department is mulling national policies to better address the problem and
provide improved care for bereaved parents.
According to Wang, more than 400,000 bereaved parents nationwide are
covered by a special assistance program. Although he was unable to say precisely
how many couples have lost their only child nationwide, some experts estimate
the figure to be more than 2 million, and the commission's 2010 yearbook
revealed that about 76,000 families on the Chinese mainland lose their only
child each year.
"These people have contributed to the country's overall economic and social
development by adhering to the family planning policy. Now, having lost their
only child, they are encountering difficulties, so the government must lend a
hand," he said.
Ding cited a November announcement that the family planning policy will be
relaxed to allow some couples to have two children. "Things are improving. It's
a good start, but we must not simply leave the past behind. Bereaved parents
deserve consideration from the government," she said.
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