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Six Secrets of High-Energy People
There's an energy crisis in America, and it hasnothing to do with fossil
fuels. Millions of us get upeach morning already weary over the day holds.
“Ijust can’t get started.” People say. But it’s notphysical energy that most of
us lack. Sure, we couldall use extra sleep and a better diet. But in truth,
people are healthier today than at any time inhistory. I can almost guarantee
that if you long for more energy, the problem is not with yourbody.
What you’re seeking is not physical energy. It’s emotional energy. Yet, sad
to say lifesometimes seems designed to exhaust our supply. We work too hard. We
have familyobligations. We encounter emergencies and personal crises. No wonder
so many of us sufferfrom emotional fatigue, a kind of utter exhaustion of the
spirit.
And yet we all know people who are filled with joy, despite the unpleasant
circumstances oftheir lives. Even as a child I observed people who were poor or
disabled or ill, but whononetheless faced life with optimism and vigor. Consider
Laura Hillenbrand, who despite anextremely weak body wrote the best-seller Sea
biscuit. Hillenbrand barely had enough physicalenergy to drag herself out of be
to write. But she was fueled by having a story she wanted toshare. It was
emotional energy that helped her succeed.
Unlike physical energy, which is finite and diminishes with age, emotional
energy isunlimited and has nothing to do with genes or upbringing. So how do you
get it? You can’tsimply tell yourself to be positive. You must take action. Here
are six practical strategies thatwork.
1. Do something new.
Very little that’s new occurs in our lives. The impact of this sameness on
our emotionalenergy is gradual, but huge: It's like a tire with a slow leak. You
don't it at first, buteventually you'll get a flat. It's up to you to plug the
leak--even though there are always adozen reasons to stay stuck in your dull
routines of life. That's where Maura, 36, a waitress, found herself a year
ago.
Fortunately, Maura had a lifeline--a group of women friends who meet
regularly to discuss theirlives. Their lively discussions spurred Maura to make
small but nevertheless life alteringchanges. She joined a gym in the next town.
She changed her look with a short haircut andnew black T-shirts. Eventually,
Maura gathered the courage to quit her job and start her ownbusiness.
Here's a challenge: If it's something you wouldn't ordinarily do, do it.
Try a dish you've nevereaten. Listen to music you'd ordinarily tune out. You'll
discover these small things add to youremotional energy.
2. Reclaim life's meaning.
So many of my patients tell me that their lives used to have meaning, but
that somewherealong the line things went state.
The first step in solving this meaning shortage is to figure out what you
really care about, andthen do something about it. A case in point is Ivy, 57, a
pioneer in investment banking. "Imistakenly believed that all the money I made
would mean something." she says. "But I feellost, like a 22-year-old wondering
what to do with her life." Ivy's solution? She started aprogram that shows Wall
Streeters how to donate time and money to poor children. In theprocess, Ivy
filled her life with meaning.
3. Put yourself in the fun zone.
Most of us grown-ups are seriously fun-deprived. High-energy people have
the same day-to-day work as the rest of us, but they manage to find something
enjoyable in every situation. Areal estate broker I know keeps herself amused on
the job by mentally redecorating thehouses she shows to clients. "I love
imagining what even the most run-down house could looklike withy a little tender
loving care," she says. "It's a challenge--and the least desirableproperties are
usually the most fun."
We all define fun differently, of course, but I can guarantee this: If you
put just a bit of it intoyour day, you energy will increase quickly.
4 .Bid farewell to guilt and regret.
Everyone's past is filled with regrets that still cause pain. But from an
emotional energy pointof view, they are dead weights that keep us from us from
moving forward. While they can'tmerely be willed away, I do recommend you remind
yourself that whatever happened is inthe past, and nothing can change that.
Holding on to the memory only allows the damage tocontinue into the present.
5. Make up your mind.
Say you’ve been thinking about cutting your hair short. Will it look
stylish – or too extreme?
You endlessly think it over. Having the decision hanging over your head is
a huge energydrain.
Every time you can’t decide, you burden yourself with alternatives. Quit
thinking that you haveto make the right decision; instead, make a choice and
don’t look back.
6. Give to get.
Emotional energy has a kind of magical quality; the more you give, the more
you get back.. This is the difference between emotional and physical energy.
With the latter. You have to getit to be able to give it. With the former,
however, you get it by giving it.
Start by asking everyone you meet, “How are you?” as if you really want to
know, then listen tothe reply. Be the one who hears. Most of us also need to
smile more often. If you don’t smile atthe person you love first thing in the
morning, you’re sucking energy out of your relationship. Finally, help another
person—and make the help real, concrete. Give a massage (按摩) tosomeone you love,
or cook her dinner, Then, expand the circle to work. Try asking yourselfwhat
you’d do if your goal were to be helpful rather than efficient.
After all, if it’s true that what goes around comes around, why not make
sure that what’scirculating around you is the good stuff?
注意:此部分试题请在答题卡2上作答。
46. When it comes to decision making，one should make a quick choice without
looking back.
47. Laura Hillenbrand is an example cited to show how emotional energy can
contribute toone's success in life.
48. Even small changes people make in their lives can help increase their
emotional energy.
49. The energy crisis in America discussed here doesn’t refer to a shortage
of fossil fuels.
50. Ivy filled her life with meaning by launching a program to help poor
children.
51. The real estate broker the author knows is interested in home
redecoration.
52. People holding on to sad memories of the past will find it difficult to
move forward.
53. The author believes emotional energy isn’t determined by genes or
upbringing.-
54. Emotional energy is in a way different from physical energy in that the
more you give, themore you get back.
55. People these days don’t lack physical energy.
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发表于 2017-12-8 20:19:03