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What I Learned From The Homeless Man Under The Bridge桥下那位流浪汉教会了我什么？
I was out for my usual morning run and found myself stumbling through the late-summer heat, wishing I had taken a water bottle. I stopped under a bridge for a moment of shade, I saw two young, scruffy men standing next to their sleeping bags. One smiled and gently raised his hand as if motioning “hello” but didn’t say a word. He wasn’t asking for anything. I smiled and made the same motion back to him. 我像往常一样，早起晨跑，结果发现发现自己被夏末的热浪搞得够呛，真希望当时带了一瓶水喝。我跑到一座桥下，就这那的阴影乘了一会凉，看见两个邋遢的男人站在睡袋旁。一个微笑着轻轻举起手，好像在说“你好”，却一个字也没说。他没有要求任何东西。我微笑着和他做了同样的动作。
As I started back on my run, I thought about how much we all crave connection. In that moment, this homeless man seemed to want to connect more than he wanted food or money. 当我开始继续跑步时，我意识到我们是多么渴望与别人建立关系。在那一刻，比起他想要的食物或钱，这个无家可归的人似乎更想要人与人间的联系。
We have all had experiences of feeling separate and lonely. I have felt lonely being in a relationship that was void of emotional connection. Feeling separation doesn’t have anything to do with being alone vs. being with people — it is about the human desire to feel connected by being seen and valued by another person. 我们都有过孤独的经历。我曾在一段没有情感联系的关系中感受过孤独。孤独感的产生与是否孑然一身或是否与人在一起并没有任何关系——它关乎的是人类对人际关系的渴望，那种被人看见并珍视的感觉。
If your tendency is to spend time alone, practice saying yes to invitations. Practice moving towards rather than away from people.如果你倾向于独自消磨时光，那么试着练习接受别人的邀请。试着学会和大家一起度过时光，而不是远离他们。
We all benefit from connection. That homeless man impacted my day. After encountering him, I felt more grateful — appreciating all that I have. He triggered my compassion — I found myself feeling empathy for him. I had the choice to move towards separation or connection. Were there many ways in which he and I are very different? Absolutely! Are there many ways in which we are alike! Absolutely! I can reflect on times in my life that like him, I was in a situation I had never anticipated, times that I felt broke, times that I felt at a low point. And as he may have been feeling this morning, times when I needed someone to stop and acknowledge me.我们都会从与人交流中受益。那位无家可归的人影响了我的一天。遇到他后，我感到更为感恩，感激我所拥有的一切。他激发了我的怜悯之情，我发现自己对他有了同理心。我能够选择到底是与人疏远还是与人交流。他和我有很多不同之处吗？绝对有！他和我有很多相似之处？绝对有！我能回想起自己生命中与他一样的时刻，像这样处于一个我从未预料到的情况之中：支离破碎、踟蹰低谷；以及像他今天早上可能感觉到的一样，需要有人为我停下脚步，不把我当透明人看。
We always have a choice as to whether we move towards separation or connection. Separation is looking at the homeless person and focusing on how unkempt he looks, and criticizing why he has a 7-11 Slurpee cup if he is out of money. Connection is acknowledging that he impacted my day by reaching out to me. 我们总可以选择是拒人于千里之外还是与接纳别人。拒人于千里之外，就是看到无家可归的人时只注意到他看起来是多么凌乱，并锱铢必较地想着如果他身无分文又为何有一个7-11思乐冰杯。而接纳他，则是是承认他通过主动接触我而影响了我的一天。
Pay attention today and notice whether you tend to move towards separation or towards connection. Pay attention today and notice whether that is working well for you. 关注当下，仔细想想你的方向到底是拒绝还是接纳。关注当下，想想这么做是不是真的对你好。
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发表于 2016-10-26 19:11:50