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怎么样,听懂了吗??
没错,心理学家Rober Sternberg认为,完美爱情的三要素是intimacy,passion,commitment/decision,也就是“亲密感”,“激情”和“承诺”。
还记得他是怎么定义这三个要素的吗??马上帮大家温习下:
Intimacy: the feeling of closeness, of connectedness with someone, of bonding; youshare secrets, and information you don't share with anybody else
Passion: the drive that leeds to romance, physical attraction or sex
Commitment: the decision that one is in a love relationship, the willingness to label it as such and a commitment to maintain that relationship at least for some period of time
视频里这位幽默风趣的教授说,这个爱情三要素理论最有趣的地方在于提供了很多探究的可能性,比如如果某种感情只具备三个要素中的一个、或者两个,那么该如何定义呢?
排列组合神马的,数起来是不是有点晕??没关系,小编我已经帮大家梳理好啦,请看(表格里的“√”表示有这个因素,“X”表示没有这个因素):
Intimacy |
√ |
X |
X |
Passion |
X |
√ |
X |
Commitment |
X |
X |
√ |
Kind of Emotion |
Liking |
Infatuated Love |
Empty Love |
e.g. |
typical friendship |
love at
first sight
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first stage in arranged marriage |
Intimacy |
X |
√ |
√ |
Passion |
√ |
X |
√ |
Commitment |
√ |
√ |
X |
Kind of Emotion |
Fatuous Love |
Companionate Love |
Romantic Love |
e.g. |
Hollywood romance |
best friend |
first stage of relationship |
淡定不能的童鞋们,快来测测你和TA的爱有多完美吧~~
当然如果你们的感情同时具备了这三个要素,那么恭喜啦,你们拥有最完美的爱,~O(∩_∩)O~ |
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