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如今大学毕业生就业连年成为社会焦点，剩男剩女问题也非常突出的今天，这10年的时光到底应该如何度过？我们如何交友？如何就业？如何恋爱结婚？…… 今天的演讲者Meg Jay，一位毕业于加州伯克利的心理咨询师，用她多年的心理咨询经验，向每个看到演讲的人，提供了一个答案。
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And then, every day, smart, interesting twentysomethings like you or like your sons and daughters come into my office and say things like this: "I know my boyfriend's no good for me, but this relationship doesn't count. I'm just killing time." Or they say, "Everybody says as long as I get started on a career by the time I'm 30, I'll be fine." But then it starts to sound like this: "My twenties are almost over, and I have nothing to show for myself. I had a better resume the day after I graduated from college." And then it starts to sound like this: "Dating in my twenties was like musical chairs. Everybody was running around and having fun, but then sometime around 30 it was like the music turned off and everybody started sitting down. I didn't want to be the only one left standing up, so sometimes I think I married my husband because he was the closest chair to me at 30."
Where are the twentysomethings here? Do not do that. Okay, now that sounds a little flip, but make no mistake, the stakes are very high. When a lot has been pushed to your thirties, there is enormous thirtysomething pressure to jump-start a career, pick a city, partner up, and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time. Many of these things are incompatible, and as research is just starting to show, simply harder and more stressful to do all at once in our thirties.日复一日，像你或者你们的儿子女儿一样，聪明有趣的20多岁的人来我的办公室，说“我知道我男朋友不适合我，但这段感情不作数，我只是在消磨时间”,或者说“每个人都说只要我能在30岁时开始我的事业，就没问题。”但渐渐地就开始这样：“我都快30了，我没什么拿的出手的，我大学毕业时候的简历比现在都好。”再之后变成这样:”20多岁恋爱就像玩抢椅子，每个人都东奔西跑玩乐，但30岁左右时音乐停止了，每个人都开始坐下，我不想只有我站着，所以有时候我想嫁给我丈夫是因为他是我30岁时最近的椅子。”在座的20多岁的朋友们在哪？千万别这样做。这像是危言耸听，但事实如此，风险是很高的，很多人在不得不面临他们三十岁时会有巨大的压力，从而迅速开始一个事业，选一个城市，结婚，然后很短的时间内有两三个孩子。这些事很多是互不相容的，而且研究开始表明，30岁开始完成这些是很困难，而且压力很大的。 |
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发表于 2016-8-2 13:37:04