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抱歉有的时候需要一个借口，但是借口应不应该去责备呢？ 看看你如何评价和感觉一个借口。
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本篇听写只听写嘉宾的话，主持人的话不需要听写。听仔细些。
主持人的话① RS: Barry Schlenker is a social psychologist at the University of Florida.
主持人的话② AA: Professor Schlenker says that, in the 1980s, a lot was written about how people come up with excuses to explain their behavior.
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What excuses do is try to diminish personal responsibility.
So it's an attempt to, in essence, say I'm not as responsible, and hence not as blameworthy, as you might otherwise think.
Much of the research showed that excuses can actually produce beneficial consequences in the sense of salvaging self-esteem, making people feel better, maybe even allowing them to keep stronger relationships with others. Because it's a lot nicer if you make up an excuse, for example, for missing a lunch date or turning somebody down than if you say I didn't want to go out with you because I didn't like you or I missed the lunch date because I had better things to do.
But one of the things that my colleagues and I felt was that the pendulum may have swung too far the other way now. Indeed, you now see in the psychology literature recommendations that, in essence, therapists help their clients generate excuses to make them feel better, to try to focus them on why perhaps some of their problems are not really their fault, they're not bad people.什么样的借口，做的是尽量减少个人的责任。
所以这是一个尝试，在本质上说，我不负责，因此不作为难逃其责，否则，你可能会认为。
许多研究表明借口，实际上可以产生有益的后果在打捞自尊感，使人们感觉更好，甚至让他们继续加强与他人的关系。因为它是一个要好很多，如果你编造借口，例如，对于错过了午餐时间，或把人比，如果你说我不想和你一起出去，因为我不喜欢你或我错过了午餐迄今为止，因为我有更好的事情要做。
不过的事情，我和我的同事感到钟摆可能摆得太远现在的其他方式。事实上，你现在看到的在心理学文献中建议，在本质上，治疗师帮助他们的客户产生借口，让他们感觉更好，要尽量集中一些他们的问题为什么也许真的不是他们的错，他们不坏人。 | 
发表于 2016-8-2 13:32:40