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对于独生之女来说，没有什么比兄弟或者姐妹更有吸引力的了，来听听姐妹之间的话吧。
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本篇对话中，主持人的对话不需要听写，只需听写嘉宾的话
主持人对话①"Quite a range."
主持人对话② "Which is interesting, because you are a linguist, after all, and so you're hearing, but then maybe you're hearing also at a deeper level. And, in fact, there's one line in your book here, you say 'Separating messages from metamessages in conversation can help dispel unnecessary hurts.' What do you mean by that?"
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"For this book I interviewed over one hundred women. It was not a formal interview; I didn't have a set of questions or anything like that. I just started with people I knew. They recommended people they knew. And I wasn't looking to say anything general about particular groups, but I included people from many groups: Asian-Americans, African-Americans, Italian-Americans, European-Americans. But I was just listening to hear anecdotes and see patterns in the anecdotes that I heard.
"And I got such a range. Everything from 'My sister is myself, I can't imagine life without her,' and then I also heard 'I don't want anyone to kill my sister because I want that pleasure myself.'"
"This is a theme that runs through every book I've written. Message and metamessage are present in everything we say. Message would be the meaning of the words. The metamessage is what we think it says about the relationship and about your intentions that you say something in this way at this time.
"Often when there were conflicts, again, in any family relationship or any relationship at all, people agreed on the message if we spoke the same language. But they disagreed on the metamessage: What did it mean that you said that? Now, frequently, this happened especially between oldest and younger ones, but could happen in any close relationship. “ | 
发表于 2016-8-2 13:00:26