Leslie Morgan Steiner曾经陷入“疯狂的爱情”——即爱上了一个经常虐待她并威胁她生命的男人。Steiner描述了她的婚姻中黑暗的一面，纠正了许多人对于家庭暴力受害者的错误理解，并告诉我们如何帮助受害者打破沉默。
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Leslie Morgan Steiner
Leslie Morgan Steiner is a writer and outspoken advocate for survivors of domestic violence -- which includes herself.
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New England
Conor
7 am
chokehold
00:16和00:19处各有一破折号（ -- ）The next step in the domestic violence pattern is to introduce the threat of violence and see how she reacts. And here's where those guns come in. As soon as we moved to New England -- you know, that place where Conor was supposed to feel so safe -- he bought three guns. He kept one in the glove compartment of our car. He kept one under the pillows on our bed, and the third one he kept in his pocket at all times. And he said that he needed those guns because of the trauma he'd experienced as a young boy. He needed them to feel protected. But those guns were really a message for me, and even though he hadn't raised a hand to me, my life was already in grave danger every minute of every day.
Conor first physically attacked me five days before our wedding. It was 7 am. I still had on my nightgown. I was working on my computer trying to finish a freelance writing assignment, and I got frustrated, and Conor used my anger as an excuse to put both of his hands around my neck and to squeeze so tightly that I could not breathe or scream, and he used the chokehold to hit my head repeatedly against the wall. Five days later, the ten bruises on my neck had just faded, and I put on my mother's wedding dress, and I married him.家暴模式的下一阶段就是开始暴力威胁受害者并看她如何反应。这就是那几把枪的由来。我们一搬到新英格——你知道，这是Conor 理应感到很安全的地方——他就买了三把枪。他将一把放在汽车的贮物箱里，一把放在床的枕头下面，而他每时每刻都将第三把放在他的口袋里。他说他之所以需要那几把枪是因为他小时候经历的创伤。他需要它们来获得安全感。但那几把枪对我来说是一个很明显的信号，即使他并没有拿枪指着我，我的生活已经无时无刻处于极度危险之中。
Conor第一次打我是在我们婚礼的前五天。当时是早上七点，我还穿着睡衣。我正在用电脑工作，想尽快完成自由撰稿的任务。我感到沮丧，而Conor用我的愤怒作借口，用双手箍住我的脖子，使劲掐我，让我无法呼吸也无法出声。同时他还从背后勒着我的脖子，一遍又一遍地把我的头往墙上撞。五天后，我脖子上的十个指印刚消退，我就穿上我妈妈的婚纱，嫁给了他。
——翻译 by 十平 （水平有限，供仅参考） | 
发表于 2016-8-2 11:39:01