【新视野大学英语】（第一册）存在代沟吗？(4/6)

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概述：
如果你的目的只是听，在孩子说话时，你就需小心别在心里琢磨怎么回答。
Hints:
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PS：有三处引号If your object is only to listen, you should be careful not to be preparing your response while your teen is still talking. You'll hear better that way, and they will be encouraged to talk more.
Ask whether your child wants to hear it before sharing your point of view. Only go on if they say yes. Then be brief. Don't lecture, and don't expect them to agree with you. If you state your case with a "This is what makes sense to me" attitude as opposed to "This is the right way to see things", he or she can listen more openly instead of planning rebellion.
Think we instead of you. "We have chores to do before we leave the house; how can we take care of what needs to be done?"如果你的目的只是听，在孩子说话时，你就需小心别在心里琢磨怎么回答。这样你会听得更好，而孩子也会受到鼓励说得更多。
先问孩子是否想听，然后才说你的观点。只有当孩子说是时才继续说下去，而且要简洁。
不要说教，不要期待孩子同意你的观点。说话时，如果你的态度是“我是这样理解的”，而不是“这样看问题才对”，孩子就可能更愿意听，而不会有逆反心理。
用我们而不用你。“离开家之前我们要做家务，我们怎么料理必须做的事呢？”