失恋告诉我们的7件小事（下）

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        4. Complete yourself完善你自己
        I do agree that other people can improve you and fill your life with joy and wonderful colors, but you should realize that people will never complete you or live up to your expectations. There’s no need for validation from your partner. First of all, you should learn to cultivate self-love before you can share it with your beloved. Try to develop yourself until you find yourself confident and complete. It requires you to change your actions, thoughts, emotions and behaviors.我赞成其他人能够帮助你提高自我、并且让你的生活更加美好和丰富多彩，但是你应该意识到，人们永远不会去成全你或者满足你的期望。没有必要事事都要得到另一半的批准。首先，在能够和爱人分享你的爱之前，你要学会爱自己。试着提升自己，慢慢地你会变得更加自信、更加完整。这就需要你改变你的行动、想法、情感和言谈举止。
        5. Don’t even try to change your partner不要试图改变你的另一半
        You can change many things in this world, but it’s almost impossible to change your partner’s outlook and habits. All you can do is to show the right path to your partner and if they have an internal desire to change, they’ll make a shift. A humanpsyche has the capacity to ignore things and ideas strongly imposed by others. This way your partner may achieve temporary improvements and then return to their casual habits again. If you cannot stand something in your partner, then you should shift your energy and react to the situation in a different way. It’s better to stay calm and respond everything in cold blood.在这个世界上你可以很多东西，但是几乎不可能改变另一半的观点和习惯。你所能做的只是把一些正确的方法展现给他们，如果他们内心想要改变的话，他们会主动做出改变的。人类的灵魂会习惯性忽视别人强加给他们的思想或行为，用强加的方式可能会让你的另一半暂时得到提高，但是不久之后他们又会回到原来的样子。如果你不能忍受另一半的某些缺点，你就应该把精力放在改变自己身上，用不同的方式去应付各种状况。不管面对什么事情，都最好保持冷静。
        6. Get rid of your inner conflicts摆脱你内心的纠结
        Your attitude and behavior in your relationship can be the reflection of your fears and anxiety which reign in your sub consciousness. If you want to have a healthy relationship, you should start from healing your inner world from fears and conflicts. Plus, you need to do all possible things to boost your self-esteem. Begin to love yourself and you’ll be able to share your love with somebody else.你在恋爱中的态度和行为举止，都会反映出你潜意识里的恐惧和担忧。如果你想要有一段健康的恋爱关系，你就应该从治愈你内心世界的恐惧和担忧开始。还有，你需要尽可能地做一些提升自己自尊心的事情。开始爱护自己，这样你才能够去爱别人。
        7. Learn how to let go gracefully学着优雅地放手
        It seems that some relationships teach us how to honorably let go. After a considerable reflection on the opportunity to build a happy and healthy relationship, you may realize that this love doesn’t cost your time and energy to continue. Unhappy relationships teach you to struggle for happiness. Furthermore, you should use the opportunity to let go of the past in order to be able to find the true love of all your life and cultivate a long and loving relationship. Don’t become disheartened the next time you face a relationship break-up, because it may help you develop a new vision of the world and start a better relationship.[/en]似乎有一些恋爱总会教我们怎么去体面地放手。尽管可能有机会建立一个幸福和健康的恋爱关系，但经过相当多的反思之后，你会明白这份爱不值得你再继续花费时间和精力了。不快乐的恋爱教会你如何为幸福做斗争。除此之外，你应该把握这次对过去放手的机会，从而能够找寻你生命中的真爱、并和TA培养一段持久有爱的恋爱关系。当你再次面临分手的时候，别泄气，因为这有助于你换个视角看世界、并开始新的恋情。