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The qualities of a good son and daughter-obedience, loyalty, respect-have
not changed. Any parent will tell you that, like their ancestors, they expect
these qualities from their children. However, they do not always get what they
expect from their children.
Parents demand that their sons and daughters, regardless of age, obey them.
Even if the children are married and have their own children, they should still
do whatever their parents ask of them. At least, that's the way it was. Now,
children tend to obey their parents until the children are of college age. Then
they feel they are adult enough and can make their own decisions even if these
decisions are against the parent's wishes.
Parents also expect loyalty from their children. If there was a dispute in
the neighborhood or between families, the parents would expect their children to
side with their own family. This quality is probably still very common. Most
children today will support their family against others.
Parents, of course, demand respect. As people become more mobile, and
children are introduced to non-traditional ways of doing things, this quality
may not endure. Parents are sometimes viewed as old-fashioned. Children don't
think their parents can appreciate the way life really is.
They think their parents are too old to understand. They lose respect for
their parents. Obedience, loyalty, and respect are virtues that are being
challenged today. We may not obey our parent, give them the loyalty or respect
they wish or deserve, but I hope my children obey me, are loyal to me, and
respect me.
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发表于 2016-7-10 15:24:30