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谢振礼雅思范文：赏罚儿童
Singapore雅思写作真题
>Do children behave better when they are rewarded or punished? Discuss
both views and give your opinion.
Give answers for your answer and include any relevant examples from your
own knowledge or experience.
Example Writing
By Jeenn Lee Hsieh
Rewards can be more effective than punishments when it comes to
disciplining pre-adolescent children. A punishment might stop a kid's bad
behavior for only a while, but a reward can do more to achieve long-lasting
results. For mothers and fathers alike, it is advisable to spare the rod and yet
without spoiling the child.
When children behave well, they are often expecting loud praises. On
occasions when they do something wrong, they probably do not mind being scolded,
if done softly. Because the parent-child relationship is characterized by
unconditional love, it is better to bind love with gentleness and not with fear.
In a positive sense, a good reward is like a bridge leading to good behavior. On
the contrary, a harsh punishment may, more often than not, hurt a child
psychologically as well as physically. While it is always necessary for parents
to teach a child to distinguish between right and wrong, the choice of a reward
usually can work better than that of a punishment, love being the same--far from
spoiling.
At a glance, there seems some logic about punishing children in case of
breaking normal rules of conduct, but actually there is not. According to this
viewpoint, discipline as guidance is a symbol of love, so there is no such thing
as being too tough with a child. And that is probably why some parents still
insist on strict discipline in the hope that children could thereby distinguish
desirable from undesirable behaviors. Such concept is of course understandable;
however, these out-of-date parenting techniques are nothing but short-term and
desperate survival strategies trying to deal with the here and now. Using
punishment to manipulate and control a child anytime might get instant
obedience, but not for long. At the end of the day, only a timely reward is the
ultimate incentive for a child to behave better.
Rewards rather than punishments would be paying off in child discipline as
it is doubtful whether misbehavior and punishment could cancel each other or
reinforce each other. In modern society, any thought about the return of the
old-fashioned rod to train a child is likely to be regarded as out of place.
Ironically, these days some parents are no longer commanders of the family, and
this can be seen in the way they obey their children, with apparent
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发表于 2016-7-10 15:23:25