“祝你不幸！”这篇毒鸡汤演讲为啥瞬间被刷屏了（视频）
俗话说得好：良药苦口利于病，忠言逆耳利于行。鸡汤泛滥的时代，听起来扎心的“大实话”显得尤为珍贵。
最近就有这样一篇毕业演讲，不走寻常路，刷爆了美国人的朋友圈。
演讲来自美国最高法院首席大法官约翰•罗伯茨(John Roberts)。
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罗伯茨出生于1955年，毕业于哈佛大学法学院，获得法学博士学位。2005年时，罗伯茨被时任美国总统布什提名，随后获参议院通过，成为第17任美国最高法院首席大法官，年仅50岁，成为了美国自1801年以来最年轻的首席大法官。
今年六月，他来到新罕布什尔州的卡迪根山中学(Cardigan Mountain School)，参加儿子的初中毕业典礼并发表演讲。
US Supreme Court Chief Justice John Roberts delivered the commencement
address at his son's ninth-grade graduation last month, bestowing advice that
ran counter to many typical commencement speeches.
相比我们熟悉的那些名人演讲“模版”，罗伯茨非但没有祝福毕业生们前程似锦，而是，祝他们前路坎坷，遭遇各种不幸……(所以，这位老爸是来砸场子的吗?)
那么，这位大法官老爸到底说了些什么了不得的话?
From time to time in the years to come, I hope you will be treated
unfairly, so that you will come to know the value of justice.
我希望今后你能时常遭遇不公，这样，你才能懂得公正的价值。
I hope that you will suffer betrayal because that will teach you the
importance of loyalty.
我希望你能遭受背叛，这样，你才能领悟忠诚的重要。
I hope you will be lonely from time to time so that you don’t take friends
for granted.
我希望你时常体验到孤独，这样，你才不会视朋友为理所当然。
I wish you bad luck, again, from time to time so that you will be conscious
of the role of chance in life and understand that your success is not completely
deserved and that the failure of others is not completely deserved either.
我祝你偶尔运气不佳，这样你才会意识到机遇在人生中扮演的角色，从而明白你的成功并非天经地义，而他人的失败也不是理所当然。
And when you lose, as you will from time to time, I hope every now and
then, your opponent will gloat over your failure. It is a way for you to
understand the importance of sportsmanship.
当你偶尔失败时，我愿你的对手时不时会幸灾乐祸。这样你才能懂得竞技精神的重要。
I hope you’ll be ignored so you know the importance of listening to others,
and I hope you will have just enough pain to learn compassion.
我希望你会被人无视，这样，你才能学会倾听。也希望你遭受痛苦，从而学会同情。
是不是句句直戳痛处，十分扎心?
罗伯茨大法官的这场演讲，《华盛顿邮报》(The Washington Post)网站是这样评论的：
“罗伯茨大法官本年度最好的作品，不是某个案子的判决书……”
嗯，没错儿，是这篇在儿子毕业典礼上的演讲。
这场演讲的视频被学校上传到Youtube上，迅速引来了众多围观。《华盛顿邮报》等外媒也纷纷报道，并挖出了一波金句，这下这场“祝你不幸”的演讲可谓是在美国媒体及社交网络上火透了。
除了“祝你不幸”，罗伯茨大法官的演讲还有很多亮点。
比如，对于演讲中大家都爱说的“哪里摔倒就哪里爬起来”，罗伯茨的见解就毒舌又幽默：
And if you did fail, you got up and tried again. And if you failed again,
you got up and tried again. And if you failed again, it might be time to think
about doing something else.
如果失败了，你爬起来重新来过。如果再次失败，你爬起来再来一次。如果这次还是失败了，也许是时候琢磨着做点别的事了。
对于毕业演讲里爱套用的金句“做自己(Be
yourself)”，他也开了句玩笑：“给一群穿着整齐划一的人提这样的建议有点奇怪……”引发全场大笑。
随后他也说了说自己的看法：
Unless you are perfect, it does not mean don’t make any changes.
除非你完美无瑕，否则这并不是让你不做任何改变。
People say ‘be yourself’ because they want you to resist the impulse to
conform to what others want you to be. But you can’t be yourself if you don't
learn who are, and you can’t learn who you are unless you think about it.
人们说“做自己”，因为他们希望你不要屈服于他人的意愿。但如果你自己都不了解自己，那么你就无法“做自己”，而你只有思考后，才能清楚自己想成为怎样的人。
之后他引用了古希腊哲学家苏格拉底的名言：
“The unexamined life is not worth living.”
“未经自省的人生没有意义”。
罗伯茨还给了毕业生们一句戳心忠告：“你们是享有特权的一批年轻人”，“不要表现得高人一等”：
You are also privileged young men. And if you weren’t privileged when you
came here, you are privileged now because you have been here. My advice is:
Don’t act like it.
你们也是享有特权的一群年轻人。即使初来此地之时你们并不优人一等，但成为这里的一员，已经使你们比他人享有更多优势。我的建议是，不要表现得如此(高人一等)。
When you get to your new school, walk up and introduce yourself to the
person who is raking the leaves, shoveling the snow or emptying the trash. Learn
their name and call them by their name during your time at the school.
当你到了新学校时，见到那些扫落叶、铲雪、倒垃圾的人，走上前去做自我介绍，同时记住他们名字。在学校的日子里，记得称呼他们的名字。
演讲最后，罗伯茨引用了一段歌词作为结语。这首歌来自美国著名音乐人鲍勃•迪伦(Bob
Dylan)。(对，就是去年获诺贝尔文学奖的那位有个性的老爷子。)罗伯茨将鲍勃•迪伦称为“伟大的美国哲人(the great American
philosopher)”
演讲全文
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Thank you very much.
Rain, somebody said, is like confetti from heaven. So even the heavens are
celebrating this morning, joining the rest of us at this wonderful commencement
ceremony.
Before we go any further, graduates, you have an important task to perform
because behind you are your parents and guardians.
Two or three or four years ago, they drove into Cardigan, dropped you off,
helped you get settled and then turned around and drove back out the gates. It
was an extraordinary sacrifice for them. They drove down the trail of tears back
to an emptier and lonelier house.
They did that because the decision about your education, they knew, was
about you. It was not about them. That sacrifice and others they made have
brought you to this point. But this morning is not just about you. It is also
about them, so I hope you will stand up and turn around and give them a great
round of applause. Please.
Now when somebody asks me how the remarks at Cardigan went, I will be able
to say they were interrupted by applause.
Congratulations, class of 2017. You’ve reached an important milestone. An
important stage of your life is behind you. I’m sorry to be the one to tell you
it is the easiest stage of your life, but it is in the books. While you’ve been
at Cardigan, you have all been a part of an important international community as
well. And I think that needs to be particularly recognized.
Now around the country today at colleges, high schools, middle schools,
commencement speakers are standing before impatient graduates. And they are
almost always saying the same things. They will say that today is a commencement
exercise. ‘It is a beginning, not an end. You should look forward.’
And I think that is true enough, however, I think if you’re going to look
forward to figure out where you’re going, it’s good to know where you’ve been
and to look back as well.
And I think if you look back to your first afternoon here at Cardigan,
perhaps you will recall that you were lonely. Perhaps you will recall that you
were a little scared, a little anxious. And now look at you. You are surrounded
by friends that you call brothers, and you are confident in facing the next step
in your education.
It is worth trying to think why that is so. And when you do, I think you
may appreciate that it was because of the support of your classmates in the
classroom, on the athletic field and in the dorms. And as far as the confidence
goes, I think you will appreciate that it is not because you succeeded at
everything you did, but because with the help of your friends, you were not
afraid to fail.
And if you did fail, you got up and tried again. And if you failed again,
you got up and tried again. And if you failed again, it might be time to think
about doing something else. But it was not just success, but not being afraid to
fail that brought you to this point.
Now the commencement speakers will typically also wish you good luck and
extend good wishes to you. I will not do that, and I’ll tell you why.
From time to time in the years to come, I hope you will be treated
unfairly, so that you will come to know the value of justice.
I hope that you will suffer betrayal because that will teach you the
importance of loyalty.
Sorry to say, but I hope you will be lonely from time to time so that you
don’t take friends for granted.
I wish you bad luck, again, from time to time so that you will be conscious
of the role of chance in life and understand that your success is not completely
deserved and that the failure of others is not completely deserved either.
And when you lose, as you will from time to time, I hope every now and
then, your opponent will gloat over your failure. It is a way for you to
understand the importance of sportsmanship.
I hope you’ll be ignored so you know the importance of listening to others,
and I hope you will have just enough pain to learn compassion. Whether I wish
these things or not, they’re going to happen. And whether you benefit from them
or not will depend upon your ability to see the message in your misfortunes.
Now commencement speakers are also expected to give some advice. They give
grand advice, and they give some useful tips. The most common grand advice they
give is for you to be yourself. It is an odd piece of advice to give people
dressed identically, but you should — you should be yourself. But you should
understand what that means.
Unless you are perfect, it does not mean don’t make any changes. In a
certain sense, you should not be yourself. You should try to become something
better. People say ‘be yourself’ because they want you to resist the impulse to
conform to what others want you to be. But you can’t be yourself if you don't
learn who are, and you can’t learn who you are unless you think about it.
The Greek philosopher Socrates said, ‘The unexamined life is not worth
living.’ And while ‘just do it’ might be a good motto for some things, it’s not
a good motto when it’s trying to figure out how to live your life that is before
you. And one important clue to living a good life is to not to try to live the
good life. The best way to lose the values that are central to who you are is
frankly not to think about them at all.
So that’s the deep advice. Now some tips as you get ready to go to your new
school. Other the last couple of years, I have gotten to know many of you young
men pretty well, and I know you are good guys. But you are also privileged young
men. And if you weren’t privileged when you came here, you are privileged now
because you have been here. My advice is: Don’t act like it.
When you get to your new school, walk up and introduce yourself to the
person who is raking the leaves, shoveling the snow or emptying the trash. Learn
their name and call them by their name during your time at the school. Another
piece of advice: When you pass by people you don’t recognize on the walks,
smile, look them in the eye and say hello. The worst thing that will happen is
that you will become known as the young man who smiles and says hello, and that
is not a bad thing to start with.
You’ve been at a school with just boys. Most of you will be going to a
school with girls. I have no advice for you.
The last bit of advice I’ll give you is very simple, but I think it could
make a big difference in your life.Once a week, you should write a note to
someone. Not an email. A note on a piece of paper. It will take you exactly 10
minutes. Talk to an adult, let them tell you what a stamp is. You can put the
stamp on the envelope. Again, 10 minutes, once a week. I will help you, right
now. I will dictate to you the first note you should write. It will say, ‘Dear
.’ Say: ‘I have
started at this new school. We are reading in English. Football or
soccer practice is hard, but I’m enjoying it. Thank you for teaching me.’
Put it in an envelope, put a stamp on it and send it. It will mean a great
deal to people who — for reasons most of us cannot contemplate — have dedicated
themselves to teaching middle school boys. As I said, that will take you exactly
10 minutes a week. By the end of the school year, you will have sent notes to 40
people. Forty people will feel a little more special because you did, and they
will think you are very special because of what you did. No one else is going to
carry that dividend during your time at school.
Enough advice. I would like to end by reading some important lyrics. I
cited the Greek philosopher Socrates earlier. These lyrics are from the great
American philosopher, Bob Dylan. They’re almost 50 years old. He wrote them for
his son, Jesse, who he was missing while he was on tour. It lists the hopes that
a parent might have for a son and for a daughter. They’re also good goals for a
son and a daughter.
The wishes are beautiful, they’re timeless. They’re universal. They’re good
and true, except for one: It is the wish that gives the song its title and its
refrain. That wish is a parent’s lament. It’s not a good wish.
So these are the lyrics from Forever Young by Bob Dylan:
May God bless you and keep you always
May your wishes all come true
May you always do for others
And let others do for you
May you build a ladder to the stars
And climb on every rung
And may you stay forever young
May you grow up to be righteous
May you grow up to be true
May you always know the truth
And see the lights surrounding you
May you always be courageous
Stand upright and be strong
And may you stay forever young
May your hands always be busy
May your feet always be swift
May you have a strong foundation
When the winds of changes shift
May your heart always be joyful
May your song always be sung
And may you stay forever young
Thank you.
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