【TED演讲】20岁,不可挥霍的光阴(5/6)
如今大学毕业生就业连年成为社会焦点,剩男剩女问题也非常突出的今天,这10年的时光到底应该如何度过?我们如何交友?如何就业?如何恋爱结婚?…… 今天的演讲者Meg Jay,一位毕业于加州伯克利的心理咨询师,用她多年的心理咨询经验,向每个看到演讲的人,提供了一个答案。Hints:
postmillennial
thirtysomethings
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http://t1.g.hjfile.cn/listen/201309/201309190945394696834.mp3The postmillennial midlife crisis isn't buying a red sports car. It's realizing you can't have that career you now want. It's realizing you can't have that child you now want, or you can't give your child a sibling. Too many thirtysomethings and fortysomethings look at themselves, and at me, sitting across the room, and say about their twenties, "What was I doing? What was I thinking?"
I want to change what twentysomethings are doing and thinking. Here's a story about how that can go. It's a story about a woman named Emma. At 25, Emma came to my office because she was, in her words, having an identity crisis. She said she thought she might like to work in art or entertainment, but she hadn't decided yet, so she'd spent the last few years waiting tables instead. Because it was cheaper, she lived with a boyfriend who displayed his temper more than his ambition. And as hard as her twenties were, her early life had been even harder. She often cried in our sessions, but then would collect herself by saying, "You can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends."千禧年后的中年危机不是买一辆红色跑车,是意识到你不能拥有你现在想要的事业,是意识到你不能拥有你现在想要的孩子,或者不能给你孩子一个姐妹。太多30多岁的人和40多岁的人看看他们自己,看着坐在房间另一端的我,回忆他们20多岁,“我那时在做什么?我在那时想什么?”我想改变20多岁的人的所做和所想。我举个例子关于一个叫艾玛的女人的故事,艾玛在她25岁时来到我的诊疗室。用她的话讲,因为她有身份认同危机。她说她原以为她会在艺术界或是娱乐界工作,但是她还没有想好, 所以她锁了几年的服务生,为了省钱 ,她和她的脾气比志向大的男友住一起。即便她20多岁的时候那么辛苦,但她小时候的生活更艰辛。在诊疗过程中她常常哭,但最后安慰自己说:“你不能选择你的家人,但你可以选择你的朋友。”
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