【新地平线英语】(第二册)停止溺爱你的孩子(4/6)
概述:给孩子们太多的东西可能是有害的,在一定程度上,孩子们可能会变得贪婪、自私、忘恩负义,对他人的需要和感情变得麻木不仁。。。
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http://t1.g.hjfile.cn/listen/201305/201305240911491654060.mp3But spoiling children with material things does little to reduce parental guilt since parents never feel they've given enough, nor does it make children feel more loved for what children really desire is parents' time and attention. Instead, the effects of providing too much can be harmful. Children may, to some degree, become greedy, selfish, ungrateful and insensitive to the needs and feelings of others, beginning with their parents. When children are given too much, it undermines their respect for their parents. In fact, the children begin to sense that a parent's unlimited generosity is not right. The contradiction as a result may be that these children, conversely, will push further, unconsciously hoping that, if they push too hard, they will force their parents into setting limitations.但是,用物质的东西来溺爱孩子并不能减轻父母的内疚感(因为父母从不会感到他们已经付出了足够多),也不会使孩子们觉得自己得到了更多的爱(因为孩子真正想要的是父母的时间和对他们的注意)。相反,给孩子们太多的东西可能是有害的。在一定程度上,孩子们可能会变得贪婪、自私、忘恩负义,对他人的需要和感情变得麻木不仁,而且首先从对自己父母的态度开始。给孩子们的东西太多会逐渐削弱他们对父母的尊敬。事实上,孩子们已经开始感到父母的无限制的慷慨大方是不对的。这种矛盾的结果可能是这些孩子会反过来提出更高的要求,并下意识地希望,如果他们逼得更紧一些,他们就能迫使父母对自己设立些限制。
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