【TED演讲】为何家暴受害者不离开(4/8)
Leslie Morgan Steiner曾经陷入“疯狂的爱情”——即爱上了一个经常虐待她并威胁她生命的男人。Steiner描述了她的婚姻中黑暗的一面，纠正了许多人对于家庭暴力受害者的错误理解，并告诉我们如何帮助受害者打破沉默。Leslie Morgan Steiner
Leslie Morgan Steiner is a writer and outspoken advocate for survivors of domestic violence -- which includes herself.
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Conor
Romeo and Juliet
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http://t1.g.hjfile.cn/listen/201302/201302060802066857154.mp3I also didn't know that the second step is to isolate the victim. Now, Conor did not come home one day and announce, "You know, hey, all this Romeo and Juliet stuff has been great, but I need to move into the next phase where I isolate you and I abuse you, so I need to get you out of this apartment where the neighbors can hear you scream and out of this city where you have friends and family and coworkers who can see the bruises." Instead, Conor came home one Friday evening and he told me that he had quit his job that day, his dream job, and he said that he had quit his job because of me, because I had made him feel so safe and loved that he didn't need to prove himself on Wall Street anymore, and he just wanted to get out of the city and away from his abusive, dysfunctional family, and move to a tiny town in New England where he could start his life over with me by his side. Now, the last thing I wanted to do was leave New York, and my dream job, but I thought you made sacrifices for your soulmate, so I agreed, and I quit my job, and Conor and I left Manhattan together. I had no idea I was falling into crazy love, that I was walking headfirst into a carefully laid physical, financial and psychological trap.我当时也不知道第二步就是让受害者与世隔绝。这时，Conor 并没有某天回家并宣布：“你懂的，嘿，罗密欧与朱丽叶式的浪漫生活是很好，但我要进入下一阶段了，就是隔离你并虐待你。所以我要把你弄出这个邻居可以听到你尖叫声的公寓以及这个你的亲朋和同事能看到你满身瘀伤的城市。”事实是，Conor 在某个周五的晚上回到家并告诉我他已经辞了他的工作，他梦寐以求的工作。并且，他说他辞职是因为我，因为我让他感到特有安全感和被爱的感觉，他不再需要在华尔街证明自己。他只想离开这座城市，远离他那个充满虐待的、不正常的家庭，搬到新英格兰的一个小镇上去，在那儿，他能够在我的陪伴下开始新的生活。此时，我最不愿意做的事情就是离开纽约、离开我朝思暮想的工作，但我想为了自己的灵魂是该有所牺牲的。所以，我同意了，辞掉了我的工作，与Conor 一起离开了曼哈顿。我并不知道自己会陷入疯狂之爱中，也不知道自己一头扎进了一个精心设计的控制我心灵、财务和身体的陷阱中去。
——翻译 by 十平 （水平有限，仅供参考）
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